yes men

Be yourself: life is too short to follow. In the professional world, we all have to “go with the flow” but Geeze Louise, don’t be a “yes man.” Where ever you work, they hired you because you are an individual with independent thought. You are not a cog in a machine, you are a human being with thoughts and feelings and the ability to self express. Share your thoughts and ideas. Others need to hear from you and you can’t keep your ideas bottled up inside.

A shared idea grows and explodes: it is a living thing. A kept idea dies.

Marianne Williamson wrote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.”

Acting smaller to serve others egos is not acceptable.

Quick personal story: Driving four wheel drive vehicles has been a passion of mine for most of my life. When I was a child, my father came home in his company car, which was a white Jeep CJ5. I fell in love with it. Over the years I have attended classes, workshops and fairs that revolved around responsible off-road driving and vehicle recovery. I am certified as an expert by five major auto manufactures and two winch companies. I am a plank member of the Tread Lightly program. My company, Armada Off-Road LLC has issued qualifying certificates to numerous government and law enforcement agencies in the areas of “Adverse driving conditions” and “Vehicle Recovery.” To say the least, it is a subject I am passionate about.

Now the story: While attending the annual Mid Atlantic Land Rover Rally in Blacksburg VA in 2001, (I believe that was the year) I was riding with a group I did not know that well. This was six guys, one of which, Kevin, I had met years before. I was riding in Kevin’s Range Rover. Another Range Rover and an older Land Rover followed. We were following an ATV trail that had led to rather deep stream: 20″ in some places. No problem for the Rovers, so we headed up stream, slowly clambering over the loose rock. At one point it was clear that the trail turned out of the stream and climbed a 15′ almost vertical bank to the right. Kevin and I headed up first, It took two tries for the tyres to get enough purchase in the Virginia red clay. The other Range Rover made it up with no problem. The little 1970’s Land Rover was last. For those who don’t know, Land Rover makes the Range Rover, like Ford makes the Taurus. BUT many years ago, they only made one car, and it was called the Land Rover. It is the boxy truck you think of when you think of going on safari in Africa. Modern Land Rovers sold in the US are a far cry from these very basic, very utilitarian vehicles. Anyway, the little Land Rover tried three times to make it up the muddy bank. The vehicle was too light, and had too short of a wheel base to make it over the bank un assisted. No problem. Kevin’s Range Rover has a winch.

So picture this scene, The little Land Rover sits in the rocky stream, aimed up a greasy steep embankment. Kevin’s Range Rover sits at the top of the embankment, pointing down toward the stream. The Range Rover is at least 15 feet above the Land Rover. Kevin was going to winch the smaller vehicle up the bank. it is standard practice to set an anchor, on the vehicle that is doing the winching. In other words, put a tow strap around a tree and then with a hefty pin, link the strap to the rear of the winching vehicle. This prevents that vehicle from sliding forward. Kevin did not anchor the Range Rover and began to winch the lower vehicle up the bank. Having only met Kevin once before and not really knowing the others of the group, I felt it was not my place to correct him. As the small Land Rover inched its way into the bank, it became mired in the red mud. The suction from it made the winch labor and whine with the stress. I stood on the bank watching, conflicted about weather or not to say anything. Then, in slow motion, I watched Kevin make a horrific mistake, He reached into the Range Rover and slipped its automatic transmission into gear. With no tension on the wheels, the Range Rover was instantly yanked over the bank and it crashed on top of the little Land Rover. For an instant the Range Rover stood erect on its bumper in the middle of the hood of the little Land Rover and by some miracle, it slowly fell backward onto the bank, back onto its wheels. The people standing around all blinked in shock. Then we all ran to the little Land Rover, panicking at what we would find. Luckily the driver was OK. Shaken, but OK. We only had two very broken Rovers and no bodily harm to anyone. We were beyond lucky.

(Kevin’s Range Rover back at camp)

Someone could have been crushed to death because I didn’t want to alpha dog on people I hardly knew.

Speak your mind, because life is not a dress rehearsal.

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One Response to “yes men”

  1. haha I like how you put you didn’t want to “alpha dog” on people. WOW. You should write a book.

    Luckily, I speak my mind. 😉

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